Liver, bone, and brain are common spots for breast cancer metastases. It seems you've known many susceptible to the brain. I'm so sorry. Siddhartha Mukherjee called cancer The Emperor of All Maladies.
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Yeah... It sucks this disease. Right now a cousin of my mom's is undergoing her *final* chemo. There is nothing more they can do for her. I don't know where it started with her, but it wasn't breast cancer, that I know. She's kept it a secret I'm afraid. Not many, but her husband, knows truly what's up. So sad, especially now with these festive days.
'No Way'...there are many ways to support a person fighting cancer that bring more comfort and support.
I have been there for many loved ones as a family member... and patients as a nurse.
And I would not want anyone to shave their head for me if that were the case.
Yes being close to them and helping, if you can, where you can, to me, I think is far far more important. I think if people shave their heads it is often a "statement" and of course, pictures are taken or video is taken to *show* that there is that support. To me, that's not what it's all about. Cancer patients need care, often around the clock and support of an entirely different kind. I've seen it happen close to me enough now.
And yes I know that we love our long hair and would hate to lose it, but that's not the thing. I mean, if it would actually help them get better, I would do it in a heartbeat, but that's just not realistic.
I had to vote 'no way'. I don't think that will be helpful in any way (no disrespect to people who would this or have done this). Inwoukd try and be there in other ways and show my support through how much I love them and that they can depend on me and lean on me if they choose to do that. I wouldn't want others to do that for me either. It's not going to make me feel any better.
I don't see how me shaving my head does anything for a person with serious health problems. Holding their hand when they needed it, getting groceries for them, visiting them, helping with their household chores, now that's being helpful. No need to advertise that you're being helpful. I don't even like wearing charity badges and ribbons. I prefer to just give when I can and leave it at that. Every gesture need not be public.
I would have found it really weird and uncomfortable had someone else decided to shave their head in solidarity with me, so nope!
I had to vote no. I don't even think my loved ones would let me shave my hair for them. My mother has had cancer before, and while she lost some hair, she was still far from bald by the end of her treatments. If the cancer ever came back and she actually lost her hair, I think she'd just make herself tons of pretty hats. And if anything, my sister would gladly shave her head--she's done it before to raise money.
There is one exception however. I think I would do it for a daughter if she was depressed about losing her hair and it helped her feel better about herself.
No way! My hair is important to me and there are so many better ways to support people.
Besides, I can't imagine anyone in my family or among my friend who would appreciate it or want it.
I would, if it made them feel better! I've shaved my head before, it grows back, no biggie!